QUESTION: How do I politely tell my Indian mother-in-law that I don't want her to come to my ultrasound/OBGYN visits? My husband tried to tell her politely but she keeps playing emotional games on him and I am too scared to even try… Liz Poole
Pye: It's lovely that you want to be involved & care so much about my health & that of our baby but you can not come with me.
No sorry, no explanations just no.
Do not let her know when your appointments are, she can't turn up against your wishes if she doesn't know about them.
At the moment you have the best reason anyway, we are in the middle of a global pandemic with all the restrictions that entails. Tell her that the rules say only the patient is allowed, nobody else will be permitted to enter.
You need to set firm boundaries now or you will have a nightmare once the baby is born, that goes for your husband as well he needs to step up & deal with his mothers manipulation now before it gets any worse